Saturday, Sept. 23, 2006
The Plot Thickens...
The trip into town with "the boys" turned out only to be with "the boy." MC and I went for our drive, but Zeb decided at the last minute that sleep was more exciting than a day in the city.
It's about a twenty minute drive from here into town. MC and I were gone on the order of five hours, thanks to multiple stops and much searching for great deals. (MC is as careful with money as I am, so we get along just fine.) We had to get some coffee, as I think I mentioned yesterday, plus were out of a few more staples like bread, milk, chocolate... errrr, I mean eggs...
Of course we hit all our usual spots, like the thrift stores and the library, plus some extras for some repair materials for the house and for something I needed for work.
By then, we were literally scrounging for pennies in the car and figured it must be time to come home.
MC had taken his digicam and we were planning to do more pictures on the return trip; but by that time we were both just plain tired and decided the pictures weren't going anywhere, so we'd postpone the photography binge until another day.
We did, however, take advantage of the time out to make some concrete plans for getting MC's divorce through and getting married to each other.
I think that's what had both MC and me stressing more here than anything else: wondering how the heck we were going to be able to get all of THAT stuff handled, both in terms of time and of money. But since we've both sworn to do whatever it takes to get 'er done, I am hoping we can push things through by next spring. I don't know the exact time frame, since a lot hinges on the courts. Given that we're almost to October already, I think the very BEST we can expect will be February or March. If possible, we're planning to marry the weekend after his divorce becomes final. The only "if" in that is the discretion (or lack thereof) of the courts to screw around with the date his divorce does indeed become final. I went through that mess myself and it's frustrating as heck to think you'll be through for good, only to find out some un-dotted-i leaves you hanging for several more weeks.
However, after some further discussion, MC finally agreed to serve his ex by publication. We really couldn't find her, by the way. We made some legitimate efforts and haven't found anyone with her name in the vicinity where she was last known to live. Ergo, MC won't be perjuring himself when he says he doesn't know where she is. He even tried contacting her daughter and got no response. It does mean another month's delay in finalizing his divorce. That's still the lesser of two evils.
All in all, I think we both feel like we're finally headed in the right direction again.
Before - After
In the grander scheme of things, no soul can truly be replaced. Each one of us has a place in the universal tapestry. We each contribute our own color and texture. When one thread is snipped too soon, it distorts all the threads around it. Other lives can unravel and tear. If the wrong thread is ripped away, the whole fabric of life becomes dangerously fragile.
- LeiLani, aka Radiogurl aka Bright Opal (1957 - )