Radiogurl a la Carte

Saturday, Jan. 01, 2005
Pictures and Questions

My darling granddaughter shared her cold with me. Oh joy... I didn't feel too bad when I first got up so I did dishes and made my bed, then went grocery shopping. It didn't break my heart to discover that the laundromat is closed for the holiday. I will have to do the wash tomorrow, that whole naked thing doesn't work for me when it's in public. Now unfortunately I'm really out of it, and thinking maybe I'll go back to bed in a bit.

After a few days of waxing introspective, it is time for me to pull out my mercenary side and dust it off. I thought I'd show y'all my Christmas gifts, or at least a couple of them. I wasn't honestly expecting anything - was just thrilled to be able to give something this year for a change - but I really like all of the gifts I received, too.

GlobeThis would be my sister's "serious" gift to me. I love it - the globe itself is made out of various gemstones, and there's a clock and a couple of weather instruments built into the base. Trouble is I haven't yet figured out how to set the clock, darn it, and it's way, way off. I'll figure it out though, probably about the time I move and have to re-set it again.

She also gave me a refrigerator magnet for a gag gift and I still laugh every time I see it. Gotta love sisters!

The other gift I'm showing you is one I bought for myself. I'm only showing you because I'm still laughing - and the joke is on me. Let me explain.

I bought this headboard at a local furniture store but they ordered it for me headboardfrom their catalogue - they didn't have one on display, but I liked the general style and liked the price. I wasn't worried about size because I figured what the heck, it's the width of a queen sized bed and I've got extra width around my bed if by some small chance it was a little wider than normal.

It never once occurred to me to ask about height. The durned thing is almost as tall as I am! It's entirely too high for my existing bed frame, but I think if I get some bed risers it should bring my bed up high enough to bolt it to the bed frame (which is impossible as it sits now,) and I can throw one of those foam mattress toppers to help bring the height to one more appropriate for this frame.

Mind you, I still love it. I actually like the fact that it turned out to be oversized. It has the look of an antique heirloom iron bed and that's what I was going for. However, HarlequinI would about kill to be able to paint and decorate to my tastes beyond just the bed. I also, eventually, want to replace the comforter with one I make myself, in faded jewel tones in a harlequin diamond pattern. The picture at left isn't perfect but you get the idea.

Of course this is all a very big "if." At the rate I'm going I'll have to leave everything I own behind, and if that happens I will be really disappointed. I had already ordered the headboard and paid for it before the last bout of grief with Boss, but didn't pick it up until this week.

I've got to get my backside in gear and see if I can't get some kind of vehicle. If I can, maybe I can also get a small trailer to pull behind. I couldn't and wouldn't attempt to take everything, but I realized that there are a couple of things I can NOT leave behind. When my mother died, I got her serger (for anyone who doesn't sew, that's one very expensive specialty sewing machine) and my grandmother's sewing machine. Those will go with me if I have to carry them on my back everywhere I go.

One more gift. I couldn't get a very sharp picture, unfortunately, but you get the idea. This little gold and enamel pin was a gift from a friend I met online. For anyone who doesn't know, one of my online names is "TwisterJester." This little brushed-gold jester pin is a nod to that. (Thank you, Kate!!!)

This quiz stolen... er, borrowed - from cosmicrayola, whose answers are testament to what a remarkable person she is!

  1. What did you do in 2004 that you'd never done before?
    I welcomed a new stepmother and stepbrother into the family.

  2. Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
    2004 is the first year I think I kept my resolution, and for 2005 I'm renewing the 2004 one.

  3. Did anyone close to you give birth?
    Not this year, no.

  4. Did anyone close to you die?
    No, thank goodness.

  5. What countries did you visit?
    I didn't get the opportunity to travel at all.

  6. What would you like to have in 2005 that you lacked in 2004?
    I hope I get a car!!!

  7. What date from 2004 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
    Sadly, I think it will be December 26, when so many souls were swept away in the blink of an eye.

  8. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
    I began to reach out to people again, and to realize that by locking myself away emotionally, I was effectively condemning innocent men and women for things that someone else did.

  9. What was your biggest failure?
    I'm still awful about not standing up for myself, and as a result I tend to be treated as a doormat.

  10. Did you suffer illness or injury?
    There was no significant illness or injury, except a really nasty ear infection that went into my lymph nodes, and my son's dislocation of his thumb a week before Christmas.

  11. What was the best thing you bought?
    Oooh, good question! I bought several things this year but the best was Christmas gifts for my family - the first time in years I've even been ABLE to do that!

  12. Who's behavior merited celebration?
    00 has turned her life around enormously, from a near-successful suicide attempt to where she's vastly more stable, in spite of Boss and her ex. I thank God for it.

  13. Who's behavior made you appalled and depressed?
    My boss. See umpteen previous entries.

  14. Where did most of your money go?
    Bills and my children - not sure in which order!

  15. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
    I FINALLY submitted something for publication. I still haven't heard back from them, darn it, but I got the ball rolling and I'll be submitting more as time permits, regardless of the outcome this time.

  16. What song will always remind you of 2004?
    I honestly can't think of a song from this year...

  17. Compared to this time last year, are you:

    1. Happier or sadder?
      I think overall I'm happier, despite frustrations. I have something of a plan of action and I feel like I've achieved more than a few things over the past year. My children and grandchildren are relatively healthy. I am blessed.

    2. thinner or fatter?
      WAAAAY thinner, yay!

    3. richer or poorer?
      Vastly richer, because I've met so many incredible people online and more than a few in person.

  18. What do you wish you'd done more of?
    I wish I'd been able to write more.

  19. What do you wish you'd done less of?
    I definitely wish I'd worked less!

  20. How will you be spending Christmas?
    I hope that next Christmas I actually have a day off - and that I'm in a different and better work situation.

  21. Did you fall in love in 2004?
    No, though I did have a couple of crushes

  22. How many one-night stands?
    None. If I become involved to that level, it's not going to be for a quickie.

  23. What was your favorite TV program?
    I rarely watch television so really don't have a favorite. When I do watch it's typically home decorating shows or the news, once in a while a movie.

  24. Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year?
    I don't hate anyone, but I'm pretty angry with a couple of people. I'll get over it.

  25. What was the best book you read?
    The DaVinci code was wonderful!

  26. What was your greatest musical discovery?
    Josh Groban. I'm not one of the more extreme fans, but a friend introduced me to his music and I love the pieces he performs.

  27. What did you want and get?
    I received and accepted healing for a lot of past hurts. There are areas of my heart that are still pretty tender, but they're no longer open wounds. And a lot of that is due to the kindness of folks I've met online.

  28. What was your favorite film of this year?
    I only saw a couple of movies this year at theaters, but I watched several on television that I liked. I saw the Panic Room, loved it. Saw the Librarian (television movie). It was campy and hardly high art, but it was a lot of fun.

  29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
    I am 47, and for my birthday I bought myself a comforter set, haha! Other than that I really didn't do anything.

  30. What's one thing that would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
    I'd still like to know the outcome of the publication question, whether yea or nay. I had actually assumed that I'd get a rejection letter, simply because it was my first submission and I couldn't imagine being published at first attempt - but now I don't know what to think.

  31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2003?
    Keep it simple - that's ALWAYS my personal fashion concept. I never go for flash and glitz and can't stand frou frou.

  32. What kept you sane?
    My friends online were my life line through more than one crisis. The Internet has become such a wonderful resource!

  33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?
    I am not an exhuberant fan of any celebrity. If I had a choice between lunch with a celeb and lunch with a friend, I'd always choose lunch with a friend. So on that note, of all folks who might claim a degree of notoriety, I'd have to say I fancy Michael, who's both a performer and a warm, terrific person. Or maybe Dangerspouse, for the same reasons. (But I'm still the ugliest.) Not necessarily in the form of a crush, since that's not allowed for DL friends, but in the sense of admiring them. Heck, maybe Wenchie, who's a bona-fide published artist. I don't know of anyone else with that claim to fame!

  34. What political issue stirred you the most?
    I normally try to avoid anything that remotely smacks of politics. I made an exception this year with regard to a local political issue, that of our community college. Our state levies a community college tax but my county is specifically prohibited from forming a community college district. We found a workaround in the law that permits us to partner with another agency to provide higher education here. Just months after voters here passed that, state legislators rewrote the community college law to do as much as humanly possible to negate the will of the voters.

  35. Who did you miss?
    I missed my mother, who passed away two years ago. It wasn't all the time, but now and then I'd have a poignant moment when I could feel her in the room and almost hear her voice.

  36. Who was the best new person you met?
    I can't pin it down to one. I've met too many terrific people this year, both online and in "real life."

  37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2004:
    I was reminded that each day is a gift, even the difficult ones. The tough ones remind me that sometimes it takes a kick in the complacency to make necessary moves.

  38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year:
    It's a world of laughter
    A world of tears
    It's a world of hopes
    And a world of fears
    There's so much that we share
    That it's time we're aware
    It's a small world after all

Before - After

In the grander scheme of things, no soul can truly be replaced. Each one of us has a place in the universal tapestry. We each contribute our own color and texture. When one thread is snipped too soon, it distorts all the threads around it. Other lives can unravel and tear. If the wrong thread is ripped away, the whole fabric of life becomes dangerously fragile.
- LeiLani, aka Radiogurl aka Bright Opal (1957 - )