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Friday, Nov. 11, 2005
Dead Sexy Sins And Other Regressive Tendencies

TGIF! This month is dragging on, isn't it? This week's lasted a good 21 days, at least. I started writing this entry last night at home, then emailed the coding to myself so I could finish it up and post it this morning.

My Fridays are short days so no doubt even the portions I write this morning will be done in short snippets. The content may reflect that, jumping from subject to subject in a hurry - though I may also have to cut it short, because I've got a trainee in this morning, someone I'm going to be working with to learn the systems. He'll be doing a show two afternoons a week but also be my proverbial understudy, filling in for me in the event I have to be gone for a while.

The plan is he'll record and drop in the weather forecast the day after Thanksgiving, among other things.

Smed here on Diaryland is one of our resident music experts and will tell you his views on all of the great tunes and incredible bands through rock-n-roll history. I don't even pretend to have his level of trivia retention; my musical observations are more along the lines of personal anecdotes. With that in mind, listening this morning to the Talking Heads' And She Was has been a trip through history for me.

My kids grew up listening to Talking Heads, Jackson Browne, and Stevie Ray Vaughan. They also grew up listening to Neil Diamond, Travis Tritt, the London Philharmonic, Buddy Rich, and a cornucopia of music from varios genres from rock to country to bluegrass to classical and everything in between. 00 still loves Fishin' In The Dark by the Nitty Gritty Dirt Band, and remembers calling in to request Eddy Raven's Never Too Old For Young Love back in the days. We used to play a home version of "Name That Tune" where mom (me) would hum a little of a song and see how quickly they could figure out what song it was. I generally stuck to show tunes for that - movies or television - but it was definitely not the stereotypical bedtime story. For that matter, I never told them stereotypical bedtime stories, either, but that's another rambling recollection.

The good part is that all of my children still enjoy music across boundaries, and appreciate oldies in addition to the currents of their generation.

I'm sure it had nothing to do with driving along the streets of Phoenix and vicinity, singing Louie, Louie and other oldies at the top of our lungs, laughing our collective butts off and daring the people in neighboring cars to sing along. (Some did, too.)

Ah, the good old days, when I only wanted to kill my children every other day or so.

If you're guessing that in a lot of respects I was a free spirit with my children, you're right. We lived in a virtual hell when their father was heavily into drugs, drink and God knew what else. Music and stories were our escape valve. There were periods during which we didn't have television in the house, not because I didn't believe in it, but because we either didn't have a television or didn't have cable or both.

I encouraged the kids to use their imagination, to think, to reason, to recognize patterns, and to recognize that most boundaries are self-imposed. I also did my best to teach them kindness, generosity, and tolerance. If I could give my family no other legacy than that, and if they actually absorbed those lessons, I guess I did something right as a parent.

This entry has become awfully long, so I think I'll skip straight to the meme I lifted from alwaysmuted.

Seven Sins Meme


  1. Who did you last get angry with?
    One of my children - probably 00
  2. What is your weapon of choice?
    Words. Unfortunately when I am angry enough to use them, it's no-holds-barred.
  3. Would you hit a member of the opposite sex?
    If it was to protect my family, I might.
  4. How about of the same sex?
    Same answer as above.
  5. Who was the last person who got really angry at you?
    Definitely 00.
  6. What is your pet peeve?
    I'm not sure if it qualifies as a pet peeve - but I hate irresponsibility.
  7. Do you keep grudges, or can you let them go easily?
    I try to let them go. Doesn't always work that way, lol.


  1. What is one thing you're supposed to do daily that you haven't done in a while?
    You want the whole list? Let's see. There's exercising, and making my bed, and...
  2. What is the latest you've ever woken up?
    I've slept for 24 hours a couple of times when I was sick.
  3. Name a person you've been meaning to contact, but haven't:
  4. What is the last lame excuse you made?
    Oh man... I think it was telling some guy I had to work as an excuse to avoid going out with him.
  5. Have you ever watched an infomercial all the way through (one of the long ones...?)
    I might have once eons ago - but can't remember for sure.
  6. How many times did you hit the snooze button on your alarm clock this morning?
    Three times - because I kept forgetting to turn it off while I was working on breakfast.


  1. What is your overpriced beverage of choice?
    I once had a cup of English breakfast tea at the Phoenician resort. It cost $6.50.
  2. Meat eaters:
    I like most meats, fish and poultry. Not sure if that's what is being asked.
  3. What is the greatest amount of alcohol you've had in one sitting/outing/event?
    I had a whooooole lot of rum and Coke once when I was in college and had just broken up with my boyfriend. While it was mostly Coke with a little bit of rum, I had a few of them. O:-)
  4. Have you ever used a professional diet company?
    I've done Atkins but didn't order any specialty foods, nor sign up for some fancy diet program.
  5. Do you have an issue with your weight?
    *Sigh* Oh hell yes.
  6. Do you prefer sweets, salty foods, or spicy foods?
    Yes, please.


  1. How many people have you seen naked (not counting movies/family)?
    Four, I think
  2. How many people have seen YOU naked (not counting physicians/family)?
  3. Have you ever caught yourself staring at the chest/crotch of a member of your gender of choice during a normal conversation?
    Yeah, but when I catch myself I look away.
  4. Have you "done it"?
    I have four children. It's sort of a prerequisite for motherhood.
  5. What is your favorite body part on a person of your gender of choice?
    Eyes first, easily.
  6. Have you ever been propositioned by a prostitute?


  1. How many credit cards do you own?
  2. What's your guilty pleasure store?
    The dollar store
  3. If you had $1 million, what would you do with it?
    Buy a house and pay off all my bills, help my kids, donate to charity, invest
  4. Would you rather be rich or famous?
    Rich. Famous sucks.
  5. Would you accept a boring job if it meant you would make megabucks?
    Nope. This I can say from experience.
  6. Have you ever stolen anything?
    When I was a kid, yeah.
  7. How many MP3s are on your hard drive?
    I don't know - I have a bunch from work for when I was setting up our software. I really ought to delete them because I'm far more greedy about hard drive space than about mp3's!


  1. What's one thing you have done that you're most proud of?
    I helped build the credibility of the last station where I worked - and have since been told that its reputation is back in the toilet again after I left, sad to say.
  2. What's one thing you have done that your parents are most proud of?
    I don't know if my parents were ever actually proud of me.
  3. What's one thing would you like to accomplish in your life?
    Becoming a published author.
  4. Do you get annoyed by coming in second place?
    Depends on what it's for. Sometimes being second is amazing, too!
  5. Have you ever entered a contest of skill, knowing you were of much higher skill than all the other competitors?
    Probably though nothing specific comes to mind.
  6. Have you ever cheated on something to get a higher score?
  7. What did you do today that you're proud of?
    I managed to get caught up at work after being off sick yesterday.


  1. What item (or person) of your friends would you most want to have for your own?
    Probably a house
  2. Who would you want to go on "Trading Spaces" with?
    Umm... hissandtell, because I figure there'd be no telling what I'd come back to, but it's a sure bet it would be interesting!
  3. If you could be anyone else in the world, who would you be?
    For this one question, I have to plead the fifth.
  4. Have you ever been cheated on?
    Kind of hard to know how to answer this - pretty sure T was cheating, even though he claimed otherwise. But if so, then I guess that makes me the other woman. Does that mean he was cheating on us both?
  5. Have you ever wished you had a physical feature different from your own?
    Yeah - lots of them in fact.
  6. What inborn trait do you see in others that you wish you had for yourself?
    Trick question - I think most of the traits I would want are acquired, not inborn. I'd want better money-management skills.
  7. Do you wish you'd come up with this survey?
    Cool survey but I'm too lazy to come up with this, LOL!

Finally, what is your favorite deadly sin?

  • Just acknowledging that I have a favorite implies greed - but I'd have to probably say pride.

Before - After

In the grander scheme of things, no soul can truly be replaced. Each one of us has a place in the universal tapestry. We each contribute our own color and texture. When one thread is snipped too soon, it distorts all the threads around it. Other lives can unravel and tear. If the wrong thread is ripped away, the whole fabric of life becomes dangerously fragile.
- LeiLani, aka Radiogurl aka Bright Opal (1957 - )