Sunday, Jun. 06, 2004
101 Things About Me
This idea stolen shamelessly from Wench77
- The image at the right is the most recent picture of me I have. It was taken on June 6, 2004, using my webcam. You now have seen both Dangerspouse and me, and have incontrovertable proof that I am the ugliest.
- I don't normally wear makeup because I'm allergic to so much of it.
- I have four children, all age eighteen or over, and two grandchildren.
- I got my driver's license on my sixteenth birthday so that I could go to work at my first 'real' job two days later. I had to go to work to support my family because my dad had been in a serious motorcycle wreck and couldn't work.
- I married at nineteen years old.
- I divorced my husband when I was thirty-three, because he was a heroin/cocaine/methamphetamine/pot/alcohol/cigarette addict with violent tendencies. He used all of the aforementioned substances simultaneously.
- I got my first radio job by auditioning on a dare.
- I attribute radio with saving my life, because it was the confidence I gained at work that gave me the strength to walk away when my husband started hitting me.
- I never got my college degree. I had to drop out and walk away from a prestigious national scholarship.
- I have taken several college-credit courses and have performed coursework with textbooks because I still believe education is important.
- I have lived in my car on at least three separate occasions.
- I was born on Thanksgiving Day in 1957.
- I have a hard time remembering my age because it's not very important to me.
- My college major, while I was there, was Liberal Arts, but I planned to go into advertising. I just didn't plan to go into radio - was going for a degree as a graphic artist.
- I graduated valedictorian at my high school but didn't give the valedictory speech at graduation because I wasn't notified until it was too late.
- I never use my real last name either online or on the air for safety reasons.
- I dealt with three stalkers simultaneously in the early 1990's and was assaulted by two of them in separate incidents.
- I turned down the opportunity to partner with a friend to own our own television production company, because the offer came within weeks of one of the assaults and I wasn't willing to put my face on television, which was part of the deal.
- I am a rape survivor.
- Because of some of the extreme things I have experienced and lived through, I am now relentless when pursuing a news story that I believe can benefit the community and/or victims, or when I believe that a person in authority has abused their power.
- I am missing my ring finger and my pinky on my left hand due to an industrial accident when I was eighteen.
- Despite missing fingers, I still play the piano and type approximately 65-70WPM.
- My oldest daughter was twelve years old when she told me that it was the first time in her life that she could ever recall seeing me happy.
- I have never smoked or done drugs, and rarely drink.
- When I do drink, it is always a dry wine. I don't like sweet wines.
- I love to dance but can't do it any more because of a bad knee.
- My favorite kinds of music are classical, jazz, and adult contemporary, in that order; but I like almost anything except rap or death metal.
- My favorite music to dance to is techno.
- When I was a senior in high school, my measurements were 36-19-36.
- Thanks to the aforementioned measurements I made a lot of my clothes, because nothing I bought at the store fit right. That included my graduation dress.
- I can read and write music.
- Before losing my fingers I could play eleven different instruments.
- In the past two years I've had four people ask me to go into business with them.
- While I love chocolate, I hate chocolate donuts.
- I love cinnamon nearly as much as chocolate.
- I once owned a restaurant.
- In numerology, my life path number (based on birthdate) is a 7.
- While I am not shy and would consider myself an extrovert, I have no aspirations to be the life of the party or a 'name'. I'm content to take care of business behind the scenes, 99 times out of 100.
- I'm trying to grow my hair out - normally it's even shorter than in the photo.
- I don't have any pets, but because I now live outside the city, we have a lot of wild rabbits in the yard every morning.
- I'm the oldest surviving child in my family. I have a younger brother and sister. We had an older sister, born prematurely, who died on the same day that she was born.
- I love fishing, and it doesn't bother me to bait the hook or clean fish.
- The first place I can remember living was a farmhouse in Iowa that had no indoor plumbing.
- I don't care for roses. My favorite cut flowers are carnations. My favorites for the garden are hyacinths, lilies of the valley, and lilacs.
- While I am not big on jewelry, my favorite piece ever was an emerald-cut yellow topaz ring I had as a teenager.
- I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian household and for the first forty years of my life, I nearly killed myself to live by the things I wias taught.
- The turning point for me, when I walked away, was when my mother told me that the reason I'd had such a turbulent life is that they 'didn't beat me enough as a child'.
- I discovered that when I was about 5, the state was trying to take my brother and me away from my parents because of the abuse. This was in a time when the state rarely if ever intervened in cases of family violence.
- While I would like to believe in romance and love, I have become too cynical. I have shied away from any involvement with anyone because I recognize that 1) I am prone to continue a cycle of violence and 2) my prejudices would make it nearly impossible for a normal relationship with anyone.
- Ironically - or perhaps because of my history - over the years I've acquired a taste for some rather exotic sexual things. Given that trust and I are not well acquainted, playing out those fantasies probably isn't going to happen any time soon.
- I still hope to become a published writer eventually.
- I haven't spoken to my brother in a little over two years. There isn't a feud, but our lives are on entirely different planes.
- The place I am now renting, I am renting from my former in-laws.
- I married a second time after divorcing my first husband. It was short-lived, ending when hubby #2 attempted to strongarm me. I physically picked him up and threw him out, warning him that it wouldn't be a wise move for him to return.
- Hubby #2 continued to harass me until only a few months ago, when I finally let him know I was calling the police at his next contact. We have been divorced for over eight years.
- My favorite scent is Sonoma Valley from Evelyn & Crabtree. A friend sent me a gift set and I'm hooked!
- I don't really care much for holidays except for appreciating the time off work, if I can get it. I normally spend them alone, sometimes by choice and sometimes by default.
- I am a puppeteer.
- The last vacation I took was a weekend to Santa Barbara with a friend, four years ago. Prior to that, the last one was when my oldest daughter was two months old. She's now 22.
- I think that the Grand Canyon is a boring place to visit. It's a big hole in the ground, and you essentially have two views - from the north or the south rim. I would rather visit Walnut Canyon National Monument in Flagstaff, the restored mining town of Bisbee, or any number of other historic sites in Arizona.
- I would dearly like to visit the East Coast of the US someday.
- I've been invited to visit friends in Canada - they even offered to pay my way. I hope to take them up on their offer in the relatively near future!
- The only time I've been outside of the US is in three trips just south of the Mexican border - two to Nogales, and one to Tijuana.
- I collect items with a grape motif, and lighthouses.
- I read the book, The Complete Sherlock Holmes, when I was twelve years old. It was every Holmes story ever written by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and took me two weeks to read cover-to-cover, including two readings of The Hound of the Baskervilles.
- I've considered getting a tattoo, but can't think of anything that I wouldn't get tired of eventually.
- While I have lived a significant portion of my life somewhat in the manner of a man (i.e., I've been my family's sole breadwinner from the time I was a teenager, have worked in what's a predominantly male field, etc.), I always wished to be a stay-at-home mom.
- The first time my voice was on the radio was when I was two years old - and I sang.
- My first time online was in late 2000. I have learned all I know about web building and related issues since then, most of it on my own.
- I personally have paid web space on five different spots, plus have three other web pages for which I'm responsible.
- I wish I had the time and the means to travel more, but I don't want a hobo life - I always want someplace that's 'home' to come back to.
- I tend to be something of a slob, but I must have clean sheets at least once a week.
- Of the last ten gifts I've received - birthday, Christmas, etc. - seven of them were from online friends.
- I used to be a Spanish interpretor for a food stamp office in the Phoenix area.
- I will put off getting things I need in order to help someone else in need.
- Once, after my first husband and I divorced and before he died, I was called to drive 80 miles to break up a fight between him and his dad, because I was the only one who could.
- My preference of drinks is almost always unsweetened tea, either hot or cold, depending on the season.
- I never go anywhere without a pen.
- If I have a choice in the matter, I always use black Flair felt-tip pens. I normally keep at least three or four of them in my purse.
- As a kid, I loved building model cars.
- While I don't have any formal training, I love doing architectural drawings, and drawing them to scale.
- When I absolutely cannot fall asleep any other way, I will write - hand writing, on a notepad. I generally avoid it, though, because since I use felt-tip pens and tend to fall asleep with the caps off, the ink ends up everywhere.
- I learned to harmonize by the time I was 8 years old. Until distance made it impossible, my mother, sister and I sang as a trio.
- The weirdest thing I've ever been asked to do in connection with my job was to ride an elephant. I intended to do it, but arrived too late to meet with the animal trainers. While I'd have gone through with it, I also can't say I'm sorry I missed it.
- I wish I had a more feminine face.
- I would give almost anything to have a smaller bustline.
- I can fix almost any vacuum cleaner - only because I've had to!
- I can knit, crochet, and embroider.
- I always wanted to learn to tat lace.
- One of my favorite phrases is, "I don't do babies." It's in reference to getting involved with men who are significantly younger than I am (generally speaking in the same age range as my adult children). However, there's been more than one instance of men significantly younger than me who have pursued me. Most of the time I sidestep, but in one case I didn't.
- I would dearly love to paint again.
- I've hesitated to take up painting again because my children fight over which of them will get the first painting I do.
- I don't buy lottery tickets very often, because I forget I have them and don't check them until after the time to redeem them is expired.
- I despise anyone who would cheat on his/her significant other. I consider a cheat the lowest rung of the human ladder.
- While I normally have to keep my finger on the pulse of local events, I often miss what's happening nationally and internationally because I don't have time to turn on the television.
- I can do simple carpentry and electrical repairs, but won't touch anything that involves plumbing.
- My sister and I are closest and most alike in terms of family, but we have drastically different tastes in men.
- While I love plants and flowers, I can't keep them alive - except indoor pothos plants, which are pretty much indestructible. I've killed several cacti.
- I once went blind for a week. I could see light and dark and fuzzy outlines and that was about it. The doctors never found a cause.
- I spent more than twenty years battling depression. I asked three different doctors for a prescription for antidepressants before finally giving up.
Before - After
In the grander scheme of things, no soul can truly be replaced. Each one of us has a place in the universal tapestry. We each contribute our own color and texture. When one thread is snipped too soon, it distorts all the threads around it. Other lives can unravel and tear. If the wrong thread is ripped away, the whole fabric of life becomes dangerously fragile.
- LeiLani, aka Radiogurl aka Bright Opal (1957 - )
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